“What did former shy people understand that made them become confident?”
I saw this question on Quora and felt the urge to answer.
Within hours of posting, the answer received 15k+ views and 100+ upvotes.
- You don’t know sh#t
- People don’t know sh#t
- Go GTA!*
*Grand Theft Auto —video game.
The answer continues…
“Unlike GTA, in real life, the law is a thing and jail is a thing. But that’s about where the differences end.
If someone gave you a perfect simulation of today’s world to play in and told you that it’s all fake with no actual consequences — with the only rules being that you can’t break the law or harm anyone, and you still have to make sure to support your and your family’s basic needs — what would you do?
My guess is that most people would do all kinds of things they’d love to do in their real life but wouldn’t dare to try, and that by behaving that way, they’d end up quickly getting a life going in the simulation that’s both far more successful and much truer to themselves than the real life they’re currently living.” — by Tim Urban
Acting self-confident is easy. Being self-confident, that’s a whole ‘nother story.
Knowing that human beings “Don’t know sh#t” and that you are in that box, too, can be a good start towards becoming self-confident. Even the most knowledgeable person in the world perhaps knows 1% of all things. But that’s it. That very person still doesn’t know 99%. You might be at .5% but again, quite the same box, a box of human mental limitations. So why not make the best out of what you already know and have and pivot from there.
A lack of practicality creates vulnerability. Keep that in check. Even a small act of creation can make you feel better. Anything that will push you away from being a prisoner of your own thoughts. Go ahead. Create. Keep on moving.
PS. Thinking big is great. Knowing how to start small and persevere without losing the thinking big, is an art. How do you combine the two?